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Family Happens at Home

By Dan Alderden | August 10, 2019

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Last week in our series What’s My Purpose we looked at how God has formed us for His family, and how one of our specific purposes in life is to live fully connected to the family of God. The family is His Church. The Church is not a building but a community of people who live out their faith together in unity and relationship. We all know the best place for a family to grow and thrive is in a loving home. Family happens at home. Home is an environment where family can dwell together, grow together, encourage each other and celebrate the good times, and be there for each other to offer comfort and support through the hard times. There is no better habitat for a family than a home. 

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.”

Ephesians‬ ‭1:5 ‭NLT‬‬

God has made the local church to be a home for His growing family. He places and plants us where he wants us, and I believe He calls us to make ourselves ‘at home’. Home’s are vibrant and flourishing when everyone in the family makes it their own, becomes a contributor and takes on the attitude that “what’s best for everyone is ultimately best for me.” 

As I look back over my life and think about the different places I’ve lived, I realise there are three distinctives that made those places feel like home. I believe that as we apply these ideas to God’s house and His family, we can all feel more at home at Reality and live out our purpose in a greater way.

1. Home is where you’re known
I’ve never felt at home sitting in a room full of strangers, but when I’m surrounded by the people who know me the best, that’s when I feel right at home. You know that feeling, right? When people know your name, your story, and what you’re like and they accept you for who you are. These are the people who make you feel like you belong. This is what God want’s His family to be like. He’s looking for people to be known by each other, to come out from behind the masks and be seen. Somegreat questions we can ask ourselves are, “How known am I?” “Have I put myself out there and let others go a little deeper into my world?” Who at Reality could I have a real and raw conversation with over a coffee?” Going beyond the surface in conversation is so important, and yeah, it can make you feel vulnerable, but it will also make you feel known, seen, and heard, and that is a key to feeling at home! 

2. Home is where you’ve grown
Every place I look back on in life that has felt like home is a place where I grew as a person over time. It’s the same with church. As we grow in the place God’s planted us, we become more and more at home in that soil. I’ve found that spiritual growth is a product of both a great environment and a persons choice. No matter how amazing the environment is, we still have to choose to grow. The more we grow, the more we feel at home. Spiritual growth happens as we deepen our relationship with God, and study His word. As we say yes to challenges and opportunities that take us out of our comfort zone. It happens as we work along side people who are different from us, and as we embrace change and progress. I believe it’s important to ask ourselves questions that put the spotlight on our personal growth. Questions like “What area of my faith have I grown in lately?” “Am I hungry to grow and willing to be challenged?” “Am I willing to make a few changes so I can be better set for growth in my relationship with God?” Choosing to grow isn’t always easy, but it helps us connect to the family of God in a greater way. 

3. Home is where you’ve sown
Finally, home is the place where you’ve sown. When you pour your time, energy, finance and creativity into a place, it quickly starts to feel like home. I remember building our first house. As soon as we decided to buy the land and build, the suburb started feeling like our suburb. We couldn’t wait to take people there to show them the block of land, and even before any building had started, just driving up the street felt like we were coming home. There’s something about putting your roots down in a place, that causes your heart to connect and feel right at home. It’s the same with the family of God. Them more you invest who you are into the house God has called you to, the more if feels like your house. Whether it’s serving on a team, or getting their early before a service, or giving financially, or making time to connect with people outside of a service, all of it is making an investment, and ultimately making the house and family your home. 

I believe that God wants to bless you in His house beyond anything you can imagine. I can testify that it’s been through the family and house God planted me in more than 20 years ago, that my life has been enriched in ways I could never have imagined. I’m so grateful for the spiritual home God has given us at Reality, and my prayer for all of us is that our sense of home would only grow, and our commitment to each other would deepen as we allow our selves to be known, choose to grow, and continue to sow. The more God’s house becomes home for you, the greater the possibility of it becoming home for someone else. So let’s commit in a deeper way to the purpose of God for our lives, you have been formed for His family!

Much love,
Ps Dan

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